Stop Trying To Forgive Yourself

Stop Trying to Forgive Yourself

We have heard this instructive from so many sources and it plays in our head as well.  When you have had a fail – whether in your career, your moral integrity, your finances or judgement in making any decision – our pain and grief is soon met with “You have to learn to forgive yourself!” or “I just can’t seem to forgive myself!”    God’s word is clear on what He requires of us in repentance, reconciliation and obedience to His commands when dealing with our sin and those we have sinned against.  Let us be faithful to walk in that obedience and not enjoy our “sin so that grace may abound”. But, today, I want to share this message of encouragement from God’s word….

“STOP trying to forgive yourself!  He has ALREADY FORGIVEN YOU, is that NOT ENOUGH?”  Hebrews 8:22 teaches us that without the shedding of blood there would be no forgiveness of sin.  Jesus shed his blood, and rescued us from the penalty of our sins – is that blood not enough for YOUR sin?  What is it about YOUR sin that makes HIS BLOOD not enough?

Brothers and Sisters in Christ, and even those who have never trusted in the redeeming power of Jesus Christ, our ability to forgive ourselves is as good as our power to save ourselves from an eternal hell.  WE CAN’T DO IT!  Our ability to transform our heart and forgive our sins is powerless and at its strongest it’s limited to the strength of our mental fortitude or our shallow willpower at the moment. Our goal should not be to “learn to forgive ourselves”, but to learn to walk with confidence, assurance and humility in the TRUTH that the Word of God speaks –

Come now and let us settle the matter, says the Lord. ‘Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be white as snow, though they are red like crimson, they shall be like wool.” Isaiah 1:18

“Jesus straightened up and asked her, ‘Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?’ ‘No one, sir,’ she said.  ‘Then neither do I condemn you,’ Jesus declared. ‘Go now and leave your life of sin.” John 8:10-11

“He does not treat us as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities.  For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his love for those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.” Psalm 103:10-12

In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace that he lavished on us.”  Ephesians 1:7-8a

“The Holy Spirit also testifies to us about this…  Their sins and lawless acts I will remember no more.  And where these have been forgiven, sacrifice for sin is no longer necessary.” Hebrews 10:17

Are you still trying to “pay” for your sin?  Are you allowing the enemy, Satan, to cause you to think that YOUR death would be sufficient for covering your sin?  The enemy wants you to believe that your struggle to “forgive yourself” is why you will live a defeated, worthless, shame-filled life from now on.  God forbid!   Let us walk in the power of God and live out our lives in the truth that HIS death, HIS shed blood, HIS forgiveness is enough.  You cannot “out-sin” the reach of the sacrifice he has already made on our behalf.  He loves you more than anything you could ever do wrong – that’s why he died and rose again.  Those of us who know Him should love you just the same.

God demonstrated his love to us, in that while we were yet sinners, he died for us.”  Romans 5:8

If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us.  If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.  If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word is not in us.”  I John 1:8-9

Let us spur one another on by communicating the power of living in God’s forgiveness and walking in that freedom, “for whom the Lord has set free is free indeed!” and not be dependent on our human, weak, fledgling, fickle, unstable ability to “forgive ourselves” – which is commanded nowhere in God’s word.  We must forgive others, but there is no instruction for us to forgive ourselves – why would it be there, when Jesus Christ made that provision forever more.

May God’s name be glorified as we walk in the light of the truth of the full weight of His forgiveness of all of our sins.  Let us not only walk in that light, but let us forgive others just as the Lord has forgiven us.

I love you.

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Kathy Nelson, author of "5 Things", she served in Collegiate Ministry for over 25 years and is currently a bible teacher for women of all ages. She is a speaker at Retreats and Conferences for Women, Youth, and Collegiate adults. She loves Jesus and loves people.